CHECKING IN WITH MY GOALS FROM JULY 2013

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IT’S BEEN AWHILE since I’ve looked at my goals and it’s been even longer since I’ve set some.  I can’t even tell you how many times I’ve sat down to go through it but I just kept getting side-tracked and to the bottom of the priority list my goal-setting would fall. I meant to do it in January because well, that just made sense. A fresh perspective and a fresh start. Besides I was already doing a lot of re-evaluating at that time.

I won’t lie, I think a part of me was in mega-avoidance mode because I knew that a bunch of the goals I’d set last July would now be completely irreverent. Was it failure? No – just a change of heart, I know that, but facing it (not to mention going through the daunting and vulnerable task of declaring what was next) made me not want anything to do with it for awhile.

When I finally took a look I was pleasantly surprised to see that not only had I accomplished a lot more than I’d thought, I’d even crossed off goals years earlier than I’d expected. These are the goals I set in July of 2013:

My 2014 Goals

Not all these goals happened exactly as I planned (and some not at all) but I still feel really complete with them which, in my opinion, is what really matters. For example – I didn’t throw an epic champagne birthday party for myself (at least not the one I’d envisioned) but I had a really great birthday and learned the value of letting go of certain expectations. I managed to make huge strides with my health goals, travelled to Hawaii (with family, not friends… although I did meet my boyfriend there so there’s that), and LITTLE LESSY and my apartment were featured on The EveryGirl last month. Possibly the most exciting accomplishments were taking an entrepreneurial leap-of-faith a year earlier than planned and being paid to style my first event (by lululemon no less).

So, now what?

Well, after re-reading my goals from last year and realizing how much progress I’d made (and how many of them were no longer goals of mine) it was definitely time to re-evaluate.

The timing couldn’t be better because these days I have something like 4 jobs that seem somewhat unconnected. It feels a bit like I do everything and nothing. I experience the ups and downs of that inconsistency every single day. As I wait for certain things to pick up and shift I’m hanging on for dear life trying to remind myself that this is all leading somewhere. The best way to really convince yourself that that is true, is to write it all down in chronological order.

So, I’m re-focused and certainly re-inspired! Head on over here to read my new set of goals fresh off the press! I am so ready to make shit happen.

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4 thoughts on “CHECKING IN WITH MY GOALS FROM JULY 2013

  1. I really like how organized and specific you are with your goals, I think it’s the best way to do it even when they don’t exactly happen the way you want them. I can’t help but ask, though: aren’t you afraid of making plans that involve someone else? Or if you are – like I am -, how did you overcome that fear? I’m just so reluctant to put a year on a man or a baby.

    • GIRL – I one-hundo-P hear you. I used to ask people that same question all the time.

      Whenever someone would tell me to just own it and write it down if that’s what I want, I’d turn up my nose at them and say “but I can’t control that – I can’t MAKE someone want me. You don’t get it”. I was so annoyed by the fact that with all of my other goals it was solely up to me to make them happen (or not) but when your goals revolve around someone else it feels really hard.

      I’ve written marriage and babies in an out of my goals a bazillion times. Would a guy on a first day see my blog/goals and run the other way screaming?

      Eventually I realized that if the idea of kids and marriage send a guy running… he’s probably not the right guy for me. I decided I was better off to just own it.

      On my first date with my now boyfriend I asked him where he envisioned his life in 10 years. He was completely caught-off guard by the question… he’d never really thought about it. He started (out of a nervous reaction) spewing out any sort of career goal he could think of on the spot. I stopped him and was like “hey… you don’t have to know what you’re doing for work in 10 years… but if life goes your way, what are you doing at 36?” He thought about it, hesitated and was like like “honestly… I just wanna be a dad”.

      Bingo.

      The power in writing goals down and setting due dates isn’t in the shiny star you give yourself when you achieve them “on time”. It’s in keeping it top of mind so your constantly working towards the things that are important to you. Finding a partner and having kids is the single most important thing for me to achieve in my lifetime yet I’ve spent the last 5 years single and had gone on less than 5 dates. When I looked at my goals and realized that if I wanted to have kids by this time and be married by this time and factored in time for engagement and dating etc. I probably needed to get on it. I became way more open to dating different people, giving anyone a shot and let go of my expectations. Between September and March of this year I think I went on 12 different dates before I met Daniel. There is something to be said for love being a “numbers”game.

      Anyway – the funny part about all this is that when I was single I got really comfortable with my goals and what I wanted and when I wanted those things – I was only putting myself on a timeline. Last week when I rewrote my goals I got really excited to share them with Daniel. I sat him down and started telling him all the careers things I wanted to achieve and then my eyes were met with my marriage goal and I suddenly got really nervous and kind of quickly blew over it and half-said it under my breath. It hit me again – all of a sudden this potentially involves both of us.

      The thing is, I’m not actually all that tied to when these things happen. They could happen sooner then planned or they could happen later. The important thing is that I know what I want, have been clear about it, and am now dating someone who has the similar marriage and family goals as me (although probably a different timeline in mind ;) haha). I would consider myself far worse off if I hid all that stuff and in a year from now realized that whomever I was dating didn’t want those things at all.

      Well this turned into a pretty long winded answer but I hope that helps a bit! I say just go for it!

  2. Thank you for responding so honestly. What you said resonates with me – so I’ll have to get myself together and put those hopes into words of plans. Thank you!

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